Reason #6: No one cares what you look like.
Isn’t that a shitty reason for a photographer to give? Isn’t that a terribly awful shitty thing for a photographer that says she’s trying to RAISE women’s self-esteem to say to a bunch of women?
I thought this reason was so important that it needed a whole damn blog post.
On the surface it sounds shitty, but think about it. Nearly everyone is so wrapped up in their own bullshit that they don’t have the time or the inclination to pay attention what other women look like. So we all sit in our heads and imagine what OTHERS are thinking of us, when in reality, no ONE is thinking of us.
Everybody has issues with their looks or their bodies, no matter our size. I’ve had thin-thin-thin women walk in and say they’re embarrassed for ME to see them, cuz they know they don’t look like my other clients. WTF? Of course you don’t look like my other clients, you’re YOU. Over the years I’ve had clients (hair clients, nail clients, etc) that have spent half their adult life obsessing on something that NO ONE notices but them: a slightly crooked tooth, the tip of a finger that bends just off true – HONESTLY, shit that NO ONE else notices. I’ve seen boobs that are one cup bigger than the other. I’ve seen broken toes that healed crooked. I’ve seen so many things that were so UNIMPORTANT that I can’t remember who they belonged to … because I have my OWN shit that I worry about.
Why the feck are we all so dissatisfied with the body that we live in? Why are ALL, yes ALL of us, so dissatisfied with the body God’s given us? We need to realize that we will NEVER be perfect: PERFECT is a MYTH.
When will we realize that no ONE but us sees those horribly “ugly” parts of ourselves but US? When will we realize that we are as beautiful RIGHT NOW as we are – RIGHT NOW!!! Those things we consider so offensive to the rest of the world don’t matter to the rest of the world because the rest of the world is obsessing with their own bullshit.
We need to accept our bodies as they are and peace with how we look. Having your portraits done will give you a incredible boost of confidence and the chance to see yourself in a new and different light.