Empowerment. You know what empowers me, Jessica? Thinking for myself and not letting others tell me what should or shouldn’t make me feel like I’m in control of my life.
I read a blog post today from a woman who broke nearly every rule of the idea of “empowerment”. She told women that they are aren’t empowered by choosing to purchase pink tool-sets; it doesn’t boost our confidence to learn how to apply makeup. Self defense classes are useless because they don’t STOP men from attacking women. WTF?
This woman is a psychologist who works with sexual assault victims! What kind of message is she giving these women? They’ve been assaulted by a man and now a WOMAN is shaming them for buying and doing things that make them feel good. Just because you have the same equipment as me doesn’t mean you GET me.
Being empowered means choosing to do what YOU want to do, whether it’s taking a pole dancing class for fitness or NOT wearing makeup. I am OVER other women telling me what I should do. I am over other women feeling uncomfortable with something then trying to make other women feel the same.
Women are not ignorant for wanting pretty things. Women are not being oppressed because they enjoy wearing make-up or learning a sexy dance move. The difference between being objectified and feeling in charge of your own life: one is forced on you and one is a choice. Learn the difference, Jessica.
Behind the Scenes Appleton Boudoir
If you’ve had your photos done by JLReis Photography, you’ve met Prudence and I and you know that if nothing else, we are batshit crazy in the most loving and hysterical kind of way.
One of the biggest things we hear from our girlies is that they don’t know what to expect when they come for a session. It’s simple really, you walk in and we smother you in love and laughter. We go through your wardrobe and all of the panties you bought special from Vickie’s, we pick out shoes and jewelry from the Boudie Closet. Then we lay out your outfits in order and plop your ass in the makeup chair .
Once we have you where we want you, we start telling you jokes and stories and Pru proceeds to make you camera ready. She doesn’t make you “beautiful”. You’re already beautiful. Prudence accentuates your eyes and your lips and does your hair so it frames your gorgeous face.
While you’re in the chair we talk about anything and everything – just normal girlie stuff that ALL women talk about. I might take some photos of you in the chair to share with group (you’re in group, right? If not, get OVER there and join!!!)
We know what’s going through your mind while you’re sitting there in Pru’s chair: “I have NO IDEA how to look sexy in front of a camera”. We got you, boo! Prudence, our in-house “Instigator of Underwear”, will get right down on the floor – because I’m old as dirt and if I get down, I may not get up – and show you every pose. We touch you inappropriately to get just the right turn in your ankle and pop in your booty. And like my mama always said: “If it don’t hurt, you ain’t doing it right.”
When we book, we always tell clients to stretch in the days before their session. We aren’t kidding, posing is hard work and you’re gonna feel your session the day after!
Some of the poses and facial expressions will feel awkward and sometimes right down stupid, but trust us, we know what we’re doing and everything we tell you to do is to make your photos look amazing.
When we’re done, we peel you out of your panties bundle you back into your sweats and walk you out to your vehicle. Later that day I go through your photos and choose the best of the best and pick one for a sneakie-peek.
Pru and I enjoy your session as much, if not more than you do. We LOVE making you laugh and we love helping you see that you really are gorgeous. I have spent so much of my life building women up, being able to actually SHOW them is amazing and blows me away every time.
Booking for March!
Due to overwhelming interest in last month’s event, Pru & I are holding our second model call of 2019! We’re looking to shoot seven different themes in March, no experience required. We are on the hunt for REAL PEOPLE of any shape or size that are willing to sign a release and allow their photos to be used by us for advertising purposes (including, but not limited to, Facebook, Instagram, website, etc.)
It’s hard take that first step and we have nothing but tons of love for our clients who’ve come in, thrown their clothes off and contorted themselves into some pretty painful positions. We are grateful for those women who allow us to share their photos in any capacity and we can’t wait to do it again and again. We also love those babes who prefer NOT to share their images with anyone and we NEVER post your images without your permission and a signed release.
Intimate photography isn’t just a simple makeup session and photo shoot. It’s not just something you do for someone else. Having these photos taken can be the biggest ego boost you ever have. When you come and hang out with us we make you laugh, we give you the gift of discovering yourself. We tease out your femininity. We give you the opportunity to experience that side of you that you’ve always wanted to.
Boudoir photography is a life changing experience and every woman should experience this side of them. Our boudie call babes help other women see that they can do this too!
FINE PRINT: The $125 deposit is NON-REFUNDABLE. If you don’t show, you don’t get your money back. ONE reschedule is allowed. Photos will be used for advertising purposes of any kind. You are not tagged by us, but you may tag yourself. Five images are included in the model call but additional images/products are available for purchase during your reveal with your product credit.
REFERRAL PERKS: Refer a friend who books a model call and you get $50 towards a FULL PRICED TEASE SESSION (hair/makeup not included). Referral credits don’t expire and are stackable. Your friend must mention your name at time of booking.
Wanna Jump Into It?
Valentine’s Day is coming up, beauties. If you’re thinking of having your photos done for that special someone I’ve got some tips and tricks for you so you’ll be ready for your big day. If you start getting ready at least two weeks before your session, you’ll be more than ready when the shutter clicks.
SKIN – My biggest tip for skin, especially during the winter, but basically all year round, is to invest in a jar of coconut oil. Bring it home, heat it up in the microwave, then funnel it into a small squeeze bottle and put it in your shower. When you get in the shower, put that bottle near the drain so that the coconut oil melts again and before you get out of the shower, after you’ve washed, conditioned and shaved, rub it all over your wet body and massage it in. Coconut oil is amazing and can be used for so many things (make-up remover and frying hamburgers to name just a few) but it’s the perfect skin moisturizer. Check your current body lotion. The first ingredient is WATER. What does water do when it sits on a surface? It evaporates. If that surface is your skin, it evaporates and takes all the moisture with it. Hello sandpaper skin!
I’m not gonna tell you not to tan, we all look good with a little golden glow. Just don’t overdo it, girl! And don’t do it right before your session. Buy a small package a week or two before your session so you have just the tiniest bit of color.
Stay the hell away from spray tans and self tanners! I don’t care what they tell you, you look ORANGE. You will photograph ORANGE. And I will try to edit your photos and lose my mind. Say no to the oompa-loompa look and we’ll all be happy.
DIET – In the week before your session drink a LOT of water and stay away from anything you know makes you bloaty.
EXERCISE – Wait, what? Calm down, I’m not suggesting you run out and sign up for a Zumba class. I’m just saying you’re gonna need to limber up before your session. Pru and I put you in to some interesting positions, so stretching the 2-3 days before your session would be smart.
HAIR/MAKEUP – I can’t emphasize enough the importance of having your hair and makeup done professionally. Our HMUA, Prudence is amazing. She not only has years of experience behind the chair, she gets you rolling and loosens you up before you step in front of the camera. She’s our very own Instigator of Underwear
WARDROBE – Wear something loose the day of your session. No bra, no socks and nothing that goes on or comes off over your head.
We will discuss your session wardrobe before the day of your shoot, but I want you to wear what makes you feel comfortable and sexy. If you buy something new for the session wear it a few times before you come in. Lay down, roll around in it. Stretch (there’s that damn exercise again!) and bend. If you don’t feel comfortable in your outfits it will come across in your photos. We don’t want that.
SHOES – I suggest you bring HOT shoes. I don’t mean those shoes you bought for your cousin’s wedding or the nice pair you wear to church. For these kind of photos you need CFM pumps … stripper heels. You’re not gonna be walking in them, in fact we don’t allow that, but you’ll be wearing them to make your legs look AMAZING. Don’t have CFMs? That’s okay, I DO. And I have them in YOUR size. If I don’t, I’ll get them.
PRACTICE – While we’re on the subject of looking amazing, practice “looking sexy”. Whoever you’re having these photos done for, whether it’s for yourself or a loved one, you want your images to have the WOW factor. So, if you’re not already, practice being comfortable with yourself. Run your hands up and down your body. Stretch and arch and run your fingers through your hair. Look in the mirror and lick your lips, throw yourself kisses, cross your eyes and throw your head back and laugh … do it til you get comfortable with it (which will never happen, doll, but now you know what we’re gonna be doing when you show up for your session).
SLEEP – Go to bed early the night before your shoot and think sexy thoughts
FINALLY – Don’t do anything crazy in the days before your session. Don’t decide you’ll look better as a redhead. Or shave one side of your head. Or get a tattoo
WE’RE GONNA HAVE FUN – Unless you PLAN on looking like Cinderella or Snow White, we’re going for SIZZLE. SMOKE. HOT. I can take the photo, but YOU gotta give me the goods. We don’t want a stiff Barbie doll in front in front of the camera and I know you don’t want to be stiff either.
I do this because I believe with all my heart that EVERY WOMAN IS BEAUTIFUL and that if they can SEE it, they’ll believe it. I want my clients to take out their photos and look at them and be reminded that the beautiful, confident HOT chick in those images is always with her.
So! If you’re thinking of having your photos taken, give yourself and US enough time. Time to pick your wardrobe, time to choose your favorites, time to edit your final images and time to create and order that special album or wall print.
Ready? We’re here to start walking you through every single minute.
Finding outfits for your boudoir session is half the fun but sometimes it is hard to know where to start! Keep in mind these simple tips and recommendations and you will look amazing!
My girls all ask “What should I wear for my boudoir session?” Read on, babies, I have the answer!
I have a pretty healthy Boudie Closet designed to fit girlies of ALL sizes. I am always adding to the Boudie Closet, my jewelry selection and of course, those hot CFM (censored) pumps.
When we set up your session, you can take a look at what I have in-studio or order something to keep from my Boudie Catalogue (coming in January 2019)!
As with all things boudie, there is no one answer to any question. Things to think about:
- You don’t HAVE to wear lingerie to have a hot photo session – if you don’t feel sexy in something, you won’t look sexy in it!
- Bring black, white and nude panties in addition to your lingerie/wardrobe
- Bringing shoes? Save the “safe” shoes for church or that business meeting. If you don’t have killer stilettos, I DO
- Bring new or lightly worn lingerie (you don’t want those little balls or rips showing up in your images)
- Try everything on BEFORE packing it in your bag
JLReis Photography in Wisconsin has limited availability for the remainder of 2018. Contact me for details!
Curves Are Sexy!!!
I recently had a session with a stunner, not even lying. Tall, legs for days, GORGEOUS eyes and a pretty little bum. But all she could see was her tummy. It looked FAT. The woman didn’t have an ounce of unnecessary fat on her. I joked that I’d take off my muu-muu and show her REAL fat, but inside I was crying. How does someone so incredibly gorgeous not see it?
My heart breaks with the knowledge that women don’t believe they are beautiful, no matter what the fucking scale (or some asshole in their life) says. Ms. T strode into my studio and she’s here to show the world that all women are beautiful, no matter their size.
I won’t call her brave. I WILL call her a loving friend and mother, a beautiful soul and an all around good person. She was more or less bum-rushed into this session by Prudence and myself, and she was really nervous when we started. But as we shot and laughed, as I led her through the poses, she loosened up and began to enjoy herself. She was skeptical, but she bravely rolled through the session and we had a blast.
And she went from being sure she wouldn’t share her photos to choosing her favorites.
So many women say shit like: “I want to do a photo shoot but I need to loose 10 pounds first.” Screw THAT. If you want to lose weight, do it, but don’t resist having your photos taken because of some stupid thing in your head that just isn’t true (like the beauty at the start of this blog). Curves are HOT. If you got ’em, let me help you flaunt ’em.
Hair and Makeup by Prudence from Rustic Cuts & Co