Empowerment. You know what empowers me, Jessica? Thinking for myself and not letting others tell me what should or shouldn’t make me feel like I’m in control of my life.
I read a blog post today from a woman who broke nearly every rule of the idea of “empowerment”. She told women that they are aren’t empowered by choosing to purchase pink tool-sets; it doesn’t boost our confidence to learn how to apply makeup. Self defense classes are useless because they don’t STOP men from attacking women. WTF?
This woman is a psychologist who works with sexual assault victims! What kind of message is she giving these women? They’ve been assaulted by a man and now a WOMAN is shaming them for buying and doing things that make them feel good. Just because you have the same equipment as me doesn’t mean you GET me.
Being empowered means choosing to do what YOU want to do, whether it’s taking a pole dancing class for fitness or NOT wearing makeup. I am OVER other women telling me what I should do. I am over other women feeling uncomfortable with something then trying to make other women feel the same.
Women are not ignorant for wanting pretty things. Women are not being oppressed because they enjoy wearing make-up or learning a sexy dance move. The difference between being objectified and feeling in charge of your own life: one is forced on you and one is a choice. Learn the difference, Jessica.